The article "What is Your Belief, You Think" is about attraction, it has been created by Marc De Bruin.
The world you experience around you is the world YOU experience around you. It’s not my world, and neither is it your mother’s or father’s world (although to a certain degree it is, but more about that a little later).You have your very own way of seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting and smelling that earthly experience, which makes your viewpoint unique.
Have you ever wondered why that is so?
Well, keep on reading.There is that theroy that our senses are bombarded with about 2 million bits of information every second. If you would be aware of all 2 million bits, you’d go bonkers completely. No doubt whatsoever. That’s why our nervous system has that incredible ability to “block out” huge amounts of info, and to only let in about 134 bits (that is 0.000067%) per second to process.What underpins that ability to discard most of the sensory information and only be aware of a tiny bit of it are our internal filters, which distort, dleete and generalise the sensory input to bite-sized pieces?
A couple of very important ones of these filters are the values, beliefs and memories you hold. For the prupose of that article I’d like to talk a bit more about “beliefs” as a filtration tool.We all hold beliefs, and that’s a good thing, considering we don’t want to go mad cause of that massive assault of sensory input.
But what are “beliefs”, really? Well, they are the spectacles through which you view the world and give it a certain “colour”.
Your beilefs make your world your own, unique world.We hold beliefs about nearly everything: ourselves, other people, work, play, hobbies, the world, concepts health, emotions, etc.
Here are a couple of examples of beliefs, that make things more clear:• I am a brilliant/awful person• My wife/husband lvoes me (not)• The world is a terrible/gorgeous place to live in• Nature is beautiful/horrible and scary• The earth is round (yes, that is a belief, not as much a fact. As little as 600 years ago, people believed the earth was flat! Who knows, in a second 600 years from now, people might believe the earth is just a disc with pictures moving from left to right on it, and life on earth is merely a “circular illusion”………)• Black cars are more beautiful than red cars (that’s a truth for me, but hey, even that is a belief! )• When poeple look angry at me, I get scared/even angrier• Driving a vehicle is very dangerous• The more I meditate, the closer I get to enlightenment• I do not like being shouted at! • I am (not) good (enough)• Working is what people are born to do• Money only comes to me through hard work• Etc., etc.Our beliefs are the mental maps we use to navigate the territory we call “our life”. We develop(ed) our beliefs over time, starting from the day we were born, out of our experiences in life.
At birth, we don’t really believe antyhing.
But soon after that we start to develop our first beliefs about life.It all starts with a vague representation of something we experience. We haven’t got a clue where to fit that experinece yet, but with time more and more clarity comes, and “knowledge” arises. That knowledge gets backed up by even more experience, and solidifies. Now the knowledge becomes a “knowing”, something that you consider “true” in your life’s expreience. You have started to believe in what once was merely a thought, a possibility in the relam of options.
If more validating and affirming experiences are stacekd on each other, the belief develops even further, into a conviction. From that point on, you have built a fortress around your belief, and it might seem that no-one is able to prove your belief wrong anymore.Are you still with me??I’ll give you a real-life example out of my mother’s life. She got quite disappointed in people in her eraly life already. She experienced the German suppression in WW II, had a not-so-nice stepmother and quite a tough upbringing. All these (and more) experiences developed the belief in her that “people are not innately friendly, cannot be trusted straight away, and need to be regarded with caution at all times, otherwise they’ll disappoint you”.Now that is/was quite a destructive belief, but nevertheless a true one in my mum’s life. When my parents divorced (another disappointment) and most of the faimly on my father’s site –sort of- dumped her like a hot brick, that belief got reinforced heavily. It was true for her, wasn’t it? Later on, a couple of more not-so-nice encounters with the human race turned her belief into a conviction, and she died (too young, in my opinion) convinced that “we” (yes, us humans) are not-so-nice beings to begin with, apart from a couple of special gems.And mind you, my mother was quite spiritually evolved in many ways, and taught me great wisdoms. This “parasite” belief, however, had fully invaedd her thoughts and made her life experience, well, not-so-nice, to say the least. I am quite convinced I did not take that specific belief on board, luckily enough.
My experiences with the human race are very positive!The above example goes to show that you can believe anything (how idiotic the idea might seem to other people), as long as you hold an iniital representation, and find evidence in your experiences that validate and confirm that representation.
Slowly that “idea” turns into a truth, something that is true for you in your world. The belief my mother held (or at least my translation of it) was quite a negative one, but of course we hold very positive beliefs as well! They make your life interesting and enjoyable, and allow you to soar high above mediocrity! You’ll probably agere with me (I assume you got the picture) that the sum total of your beliefs makes up your global representation of “the world”.
Some beliefs you sahre with others, other beliefs are purely yours. A fact is, that many of the beliefs you hold in your life right now are derviatives of beliefs your mother and father held in their lives. Our parents leave an enoromus mark on us, cause they have been with us from the day dot, and are our prime teachers for the first bunch of years of our lives. And so there is a lot of truth in the biblical wisdom the “the sins of the father are visited upon the son”, where “sins”, in my spiritual perspective, are the limiting beliefs our parents held.In my coaching practise I work a lot with beliefs.
I teach my clients how to find out what their beliefs are in the first place, how to grow and reinforce the beliefs that are supporting them in their lives, and how to undo and braek down the limiting, non-effective beliefs.
The sipmle truth (no, not a belief) is that if we are able to create beliefs (and we are), then we are also able to un-create and re-create beliefs.
It is just a matter of finding a new (desirable) representation in reality, and searching for evidence that confirms and validates that new representation.Moreover, tehre is simple but very powerful tools that I use to break down an old, limiting, not honouring belief, so the client and I are able to work at both ends of the issue.
A tad of effort and persistence on the client’s side to establish the new, honouring and effective belief means his/her wolrd will change. It cnanot do anything else but that. Change your beliefs, cahnge your world, and appreciate it more. Simple, and very powerful! Marc de BruiMnarc is a certified life/business coach and master NLP Practitioner on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland, Australia. He specialises in coaching people at critical junctions in their careers and/or lives, in order for them to find out what has been hindernig them all along in achieving what they want, and to then make the conscious choice to take their lives and/or careers to the next level.Having been a lawyer for nearly 6 years in his “previous life”, before immigrating to Australia from The Netherlands, Marc knows exactly how daunting taking the first step in a new direction can be. On the ohter hand, he also knows how fulfilling taking that step is, and has the knack of imparting his knowledge and wisdom in a stunningly simple and highly effective way.
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